"I am a mother of a girl of 14 who still attends the third grade.
All 'age' of 9 years and had a tumor 'was made and then cured .. in recent years has followed the follow-up of the disease with controls in day hospital .. We were able to make them lose only a month and a half of elementary because we have assumed a 'teacher in contact with the teacher keep her updated with what was being done at school .. Finally this afternoon we held a teacher until the middle 'of the eighth grade. ... But the medium has always had difficulty with math .. despite the' efforts at home .. 's math teacher went on to write of' unable and 's ass and mortify my daughter that she felt embarrassed and closed more and more common problem .. at least 4 / 5 pupils of the same class and also talking to the principal who was aware of the problem and nn' failed to resolve anything .. them 'I asked the exchange section xl' years that draws me to follow nn xke granted 'if my daughter had moved to do the same with 4 other girls with the same problem ..
Surely I'm wrong .. I changed schools my daughter who had threatened to open No more books because they 'where he was wrong too .. (but it was just mathematics!) I thought that would solve .. x love regain matter but I was wrong .. In the new school was wrong in nn only mathematics but also in Italian history, geography, French, English .. Still despite the work at home (I state that I was present when the house was the 'teacher) and' nn commitment of the girl .. that was even more sport .. I tried to tell the school that the girl was followed by a teacher at home .. And it 'was much worse! have called twice immature saying that maybe the problem was just that! That was self-nn .. In December of last year and then in the middle 'of the eighth grade in the new school shortly before running out of teacher afternoon .. My daughter tells us that wants to reject that and maybe 'as they say his teachers immature .. and that despite the afternoons on the books we can, and that nn and' terrified by examination. We saw the drawing of failures and discouragement as we thought we'd let her do .. thinking that maybe I would have done well again .. even if we talk about middle school!! Yet everything seems strange! And if that was the live nn nn personally believe and I would suspect mental retardation .. That is nn! Anyway
nn In June she was admitted to the examinations and now we are still in middle school .. with the same failure in math .. with 6:30 in Italian history, geography than ever that vote even when responding to all the teachers say that .. always has her head in the air .. in the afternoon hours ago 'tasks and is questioned by a girl who is x degrees in teaching the teachers .. but .. I wonder if he studied nn I venture to say that it' followed. . are always at home with her and the girl and I follow .. The tasks are performed .. Nn know 'what to do .. Two days ago 'comes home saying that alarmed scientists spoke of tumors (the' teacher knows' his misadventure!) And the prof said that if you and 'daughters of women who have had breast cancer prevention would be fair to remove the x mammary gland .. (A 'statement so amazes me! And discomfort and if' that really was) and now returns home heartbroken xke 'she and her friends have heard the teacher say to another Italian support, believing that nn be heard that my daughter (xke 'asked the time before the change of the chair that had broken the back), "the Marion P. and' insipid as his mother (" that's me!). "I state that I have always had a relaxed attitude quiet and respectful with this teacher who knew the first nn and being new I have from the 'beginning of the school having three times certain things .. leave me astounded helpless .. .. Nn so complicated I see the 'how to deal with these manifestations of insensitivity and ignorance .. nn I state that I'm a mother that' a priori reason to her daughter .. in front of this maze of life I would like some advice from her on how to deal with both my daughter with school .. I want to believe that there are still good teachers .. and my daughter still has chance to redeem himself in high school .. I feel very helpless! Thanks x I have read and just trying to understand my "papyrus"! Sincerely
Dear Elisa,
I read your letter several times, because we feel much pain and why is the testimony of the bad that happens in the Italian school. I would like to help, but it is not easy. I try.
School because they can not be situations like this happen. On the one hand, a mother and a daughter who are sick and if not come by chance and luck on the road to a real teacher, motivated, prepared and capable, are destined to suffer.
the other a school that has many defects, which has no resources, which is structured and ill-conceived, that is out of step with the times (to improve things not to comply) and, above all, who can not marry his difficulties with those of families and children. To address these hardships, the school should offer more highly trained teachers from all points of view (paid specialists, not as good as low-level employees) and much greater resources, allowing classes of ten students and the possibility of having the support of other specialists who can provide support for teachers, to ' alunnno and the parent in every situation. Sci.
I must say that there really are teachers unprepared for the boys, unfit to teach, who are ignorant (because they never bothered to study how to solve problems and then just do not know), unmotivated, and often very frustrated. Those teachers can effectively demonstrate their inability and reveal their anger, their fear and their frustration turning to words that kids should not even be in their mind.
not offend the guys because they have behaved badly, not humble themselves because they do not understand, do not try to make them study more terrorizing. But they do not know why other strategies, because they are tired of all the difficult situations in which they stupidly and try to take revenge with the guys and sometimes with their parents.
Those teachers should be sacked without mercy, Elisa.
parallel to this discussion, though, we do another.
There are really unprepared parents to educate their children, who are ignorant (because never had the chance to study or will find out about all the problems that revolve around the school, children and young people and therefore do not ask questions and judge without knowing). Parents are tired, unmotivated, presumptuous, permissive and protective and often very frustrated because the child is not like they would like. Or because the school does not help them as they expect.
Those parents can effectively demonstrate their inability and reveal their anger, their fear and frustration by defining their clueless and insensitive teachers, highlighting the problems, increase their frustration.
Parents get angry when I'm tired of all difficult situations in which they live and try to give teachers all the blame for the luxury of thinking that there would be problems if teachers were better.
The conflict is generated by the collision of the problems of the various parties. Everyone has responsibilities.
Maybe, Elisa, that the words which you have been reported have not been precisely those that the tone was not aggressive. Maybe the girl who followed Marilena home not tell the truth (because it has interest to give a justification of why the girl did not improve despite his help, and blame the teachers). Maybe Marion really is a bit 'immature, really is not autonomous. There would be no harm: it can happen, especially if you have had health problems that somehow affected his life. Or it may be that the teachers are really the stupid and ignorant.
But we have to say that you have changed schools, and the problem should be resolved. But no. So one wonders (and I suggest you ask), but you are unprepared, incompetent, insensitive? No one understood anything of Marilena? Have it all with you?
is difficult, Elisa, because in my over twenty years of experience, I know that problems are minimized, by teachers, not underlined. Teachers, soprattutto se incompetenti, se sanno di non aver fatto niente per l’alunno, cercano di promuoverlo. Ma quello che succede ai genitori frustrati che cercano di scaricare la colpa sugli insegnanti per non doverla dare a se stessi, capita anche agli insegnanti, che cercano di ignorare i problemi che non sanno risolvere, che cercano di dare ai genitori la colpa delle azioni didattiche e disciplinari che hanno fallito, per trovare un alibi alla loro incapacità di risolvere i problemi. Da un lato il genitore che pretende aiuto, dall’altro il docente che nessuno ha preparato ad aiutare e che non ha risorse per farlo. In mezzo c’è Marilena, che, anche lei, dà la colpa ai docenti delle sue difficoltà, per non dover ammettere di avere problems. A side is the manager who does not want to do anything, because he knows he can not do anything. Can not dismiss the teacher. Can not prove that it is true that they said "ass" to your daughter, because, of course, the teacher would deny.
The School - I've already said - is wrong. In school, I repeat, there should be the best teachers (and many that do not teach for fallback) and more resources. There is neither one nor the other. With regard to the accusation
Marilena to be "silly" like you, do not spend more time. not worth it. Could you tell Marilena that, on second thought, do you think it is wrong, because it remains less evil.
also because you have no evidence that those words have been said really. And why, if they were true, those are words of people stupid and pathetic child.
apparent by your words (it seems) that you let your daughter shine your contempt for teachers. Do not. Strive to demonstrate confidence in them even if you do not have. It is important for your daughter. And I think if you do find that she, too, which will be less biased, you will notice less offended by the teachers. Why to blame the teachers for your daughter may also be a way to download the frustration su di loro.
Vai di nuovo dagli insegnanti e spiega loro che capisci le loro difficoltà e che vorresti che ti spiegassero che cosa devono fare. Fallo dopo aver riflettuto sulle mie osservazioni.
Se davvero risulta che si rivolgono agli alunni con insulti, scrivere una lettera alla dirigente e fatela protollare, chiedendo che intervenga perché indaghi e, se dovesse risultare, prenda dei provvedimenti perché non accada più.
Leggi anche le altre mie note sulla scuola, se non lo hai ancora fatto.
Per esempio queste:
http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=149389971775023; oppure questa:
http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=123919824322038
Spero di averti aiutato un po’.
Fammi sapere!